5 Reasons I Let My Children Play Video Games But Limit Their Television

5 Reasons I Let My Children Play Video Games But Limit Their Television

In our family, it’s no secret that we love video games. We are not screen averse. While we do set aside our electronic gadgets when we’re at the dinner table and in the evenings to spend time together, we do not consider that all screens are created equal.

We distinguish between television and video games, limiting one and not the other.

We firmly believe that the two forms of media could not be more different.

Video games are interactive, television is passive

I dislike television. My children know this. I honestly don’t think it’s enjoyable. Unless I am eating or drinking while watching television, the quality of what I’m watching has to be incredible for me to remain interested. Otherwise, I get bored.

It’s not just me who thinks so. Watching television by its very nature is a passive activity as can be seen in this pattern of brain waves.

Even if what you are watching is a documentary, television seriously limits thinking. It encourages you – no, requires you to passively accept the world of the show to be able to enjoy it. Also, because television is so visual and so realistic it is easy to accept it as a reality. After all, you saw it happen.

As such, we limit television watching. When the kids do watch movies, especially Disney movies (yes, I hate most of them) we make it a point to talk through the themes they beat kids over the head with um, explore.

While this blind acceptance of the creator’s worldview can happen in video games, there are more options to choose from. Clearly, I’m not suggesting you buy Grand Theft Auto for your kids. We certainly do not.

Minecraft, Castle Crashers, Alien Hominid, Terraria all have their own worlds that you can go explore. None of them are realistic in the way television is and the children don’t for one second believe that this world is somehow real. Not even the youngest one.

That is because there is constant thinking involved in playing video games. Both require a willing suspension of disbelief, but television requires an extended period of not thinking.

Video games encourage creativity

Video games can’t possibly be creative, right? What’s creative about a controller and some blips and blops on the screen? Where’s the art form in that? Isn’t creativity something you do with paint and music? Where’s the color, for goodness’ sake? Nah, video games can’t be creative.

Well, actually, they can.

5 Reasons I Let My Children Play Video Games But Limit Their Television

Creativity, in its broadest sense, is the ability to look at problems from different perspectives and try to solve it in a way that gets the desired results. If you only accept the definition of creativity that involves paint and color, you are saying that Picasso was creative, but not Einstein.

Watch kids playing Minecraft or interacting with a new app on the pad. Think of how many different ways they try to make sense of the game and what to do next. Will this work? No. Why not? Maybe this will work. Let’s try that.

What is this if not creativity at its fullest? The mind is stretched beyond its ability in what Mihály Csíkszentmihályi calls “flow” in his book of the same name, which I quoted yesterday. This causes thinking to expand and push the limits of what it’s capable of.

There are valuable skills that can be picked up from video games

Those who sneer at video games and see only violence and problems are probably reading bad propaganda. There is no link between video games and increased violence. Yes, this is regardless of what the APA says.

(One of the reasons I have been hesitant to quote research studies in this article is because it is almost impossible to find studies that don’t begin and end with bias regarding this matter.)

I find that my children have an increased understanding of how the world works through playing video games. The first time my children played Minecraft, I was amazed at the level of cooperation that emerged out of that one game alone.

While they fought over toys in the living room, suddenly when the game came on, they banded together, reading from the Minecraft Secrets book and working together to build and houses and worlds and defeat zombies.

It was breathtaking.

Unlike television where the people and situations are realistic but locked in a highly artificial world, video games feature artificial characters in a relatively open world facing semi-realistic situations.

5 Reasons I Let My Children Play Video Games But Limit Their Television

The player then has to figure out how to manipulate his environment to be able to get where he wants to go. He needs to figure out if he has to cooperate with other players, attack them or go learn some more skills, solve puzzling situations to be able to advance. This requires picking up skills that can transfer to real life situations.

It is a world in which the children have control

When I watch my recently turned four year old love TerrariaI understand why. It’s because in this world, he is not limited by his size. As the youngest in the family, he is left to ask permission and help in almost everything he does. He can barely pour milk into a bowl for cereal from a gallon jug. If clothes are turned inside out, he has trouble wearing them. We are constantly telling him that his shoes are on the wrong feet.

Real life, for him is relatively difficult and full of challenges. He needs assistance in getting through much of his day.

The only place this is not true is when he is playing his favorite game. Then he is in control of his environment.

He can lift things and move them around; he is happy; he can play with his friends and his siblings. For a little while, he is not the youngest, not the weakest in the bunch. He is a team player and one of them. He belongs.

Even as adults, we are satisfied when we have more control over our environment. (In fact, research says that adults playing video games had reduced stress levels and even reduced pain.) Our stress levels go down. We feel better. We can then tackle more difficult tasks.

Why would we want to keep this same enjoyment, the same feeling of accomplishment from out children?

Television on the other hand does not reduce stress. In fact, people do it as a purely passive activity and even report high levels of depression while watching television. Watching television also contracts time, according to Claudia Hammond in Time Warped, leaving you with nothing to show at the end of the day.

Video games teach kids that failure isn’t forever or devastating

Megan McArdle in The Up Side of Down mentions how failure is a good thing to learn early in life. If we have been shown that failure is not something to fear, if we can recover from failure, we are that much more likely to be successful.

5 Reasons I Let My Children Play Video Games But Limit Their Television

If we keep pushing it into the future, failure can have the power to devastate us. That is why punishment is necessary while children are growing up to train them.

I find this to be incredibly empowering when the children play video games. They have unlimited lives. Doing the wrong thing hurts, but does not destroy them. There’s always another chance.

My daughter, who used to behave like she was physically hurt by making mistakes, picks herself up, shakes off the dust and moves on. No blame, no shame. She’s not trying to find someone to complain to. It’s almost as if she’s – gasp! – taking responsibility and moving on to try it one more time.

Television does not offer this kind of recovery from failure, no matter how many times children’s movies tell them to follow their dreams.

So no, you can not lump all screen time together and call it digital heroin. There are differences and those differences are huge.

Now excuse me while I go storm a castle.

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Author: Purva Brown

Writer / blogger at http://TheClassicalUnschooler.com - unapologetically blending two seeming opposites.

6 thoughts on “5 Reasons I Let My Children Play Video Games But Limit Their Television”

  1. We love watching movies and some television shows here. It’s great to have downtime when you’re doing “nothing”. I don’t think it’s necessary to be actively engaged every moment of our lives. I was having a conversation with my husband’s aunt a few weeks ago telling her about how I read to the kids while they play in the playroom sometimes. She told me about how her mother used to read to her at breakfast every morning until she went off to college, everything form War and Peace to Anna Karenina. I thought that sounded sweet, but she told me she hated it. It made her feel like she could never have downtime, as if she always had to be actively doing something. Now, I’m not going to stop reading to them while they play with their Magnatiles (unless they ask me to), but her story made me think about how it’s important to recognize the benefits of down time and passivity. We don’t have to look for learning in every opportunity. We shouldn’t attack television shows and movies as something that has no value.

    1. Fantastic post and wonderful reply by zulli.i truly believe in what zulli says as the charm of doing nothing is ONLY FILLED WITH LEARN SOMETHING FROM ANYWHERE EVERYWHERE WHEREVER WHENEVER.theres no PAUSE only play n busy for no reason.

  2. I’m not very fond of video games, we have survived without an Xbox for 13 years (the age of my oldest).
    In Mexico you still have to buy the games. And when they’re out of date, you should buy the next update. It’s the never ending story! It isn’t eco friendly either!
    I understand that kids need to be engaged with technology, but we’ve limited to the iPad. They rarely buy an app but download the free versions. They may probably buy Minecraft, I’ll explore Terraria.
    My boys are genetically addict to TV (that’s the only explanation, and it comes from my husband, haha), so I’m always struggling to reduce the time they are in the couch. Buy we’ve found, (now they’re older) that watching together a movie (hate Disney, but is almost unavoidable) on saturday afternoon is really enjoyable!
    We read every night (that’s because of me, yaiii!!) and try to travel as much as our time and money let us.
    What I really think is that being on the couch for a long time is not good, no matter if you’re watching TV or playing video games; even reading needs a rest!

  3. I understand your point of view. But, does the cooperation in a video game end up translating into the real world of cooperation between your children? You mentioned fighting over toys, etc. Do they not fight over toys any longer? Because the real world is not a video game. They will have to translate any skills acquired though gaming into real life. I have never read a study that says this just happens. I studied theater and we are a theater-loving, story- loving family. I can see how you feel about the passive viewing of movies because of the movies you are choosing (Disney). My children learn and comprehend so much from watching movies – like Mary Poppins, for instance (which we then saw as a musical – passively sitting in a huge theater for 3 hours – even my 5 year old – not bored – taking it all in: the scenery, the music, the staging, the lyrics, the acting…) We have been ‘passively’ watching since the Greeks in the 6th century BC. TV is different from live theater except for the “passivity” part which seems to be your biggest concern. Food for thought. I would try some better movies and just ditch the modern fast paced empty tv shows and most Disney movies.

  4. I let my kids have a little bit of screen time every day, sometimes a video and sometimes a game. What I’ve noticed in both is that, if they have too much time with either, they become unhappy and dissatisfied with their real lives. And it’s understandable. Like you said, they can be in control of their environment and they feel good about themselves. But it’s all artificial and isn’t the same as feeling successful in the real world. It’s way too easy to get lost in those artificial worlds and feel like normal life isn’t as interesting. Especially for certain personality types! Like I said, I let my kids do a little bit, but I think we all have to be careful to not let our kids go overboard or get addicted.

  5. Interesting perspective. Wondering if you have video games you recommend that help to sponsor creativity, etc as you have cited.

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