We have a penchant for the normal, the same. We love talking about the good old days. Often, this works to our advantage. We learn by imitation and we are most at home when things around us are habitual.
However, if we are not careful, the desire for sameness, for things to always be the way they were can be a big stumbling block.
I just got off the phone with a friend who is more than a little skeptical of homeschooling.
“But how will they graduate high school?”
“I will give them a certificate when they’re done with their course work.”
Homeschooling is just that. Different. It is not worse because it is different and it might just be better.
I mentioned in another blog post that we are currently selling our house. To make it easiest for viewing, we have moved to an apartment.
Living in an apartment sure is different. But it is not worse.
I suppose it is normal to look back at times and places and things and see them as flat. That’s the nature of life. When it is not in front of us in all its topographic loveliness, when it is not great and wonderful and iconoclastic, it is easy to look at it and say it’s good.
But reality, as C. S. Lewis puts it, is always iconoclastic.
Eventually, we put our own thoughts over reality and it comes back to us as our own creation, in our image.
All reality is iconoclastic. The earthly beloved, even in this life, incessantly triumphs over your mere idea of her. And you want her to; you want her with all her resistances, all her faults, all her unexpectedness. That is, in her foursquare and independent reality. – C. S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
Homeschooling can be a little like that. New homeschoolers know this. And veteran homeschoolers remember this. It’s just different, not worse because it’s so.
So when you’re trying to tell someone who has no idea what it is, be sure to leave room for their surprise, their incredulous “reallys?” because they’re coming.
Remind them that just because it’s different doesn’t mean it’s worse. Tell them to give it time. They might just get used to it.