On Remembering and Not Forgetting

On Remember and Not Forgetting

I’ve been reading a very interesting book called Buzz: A Year of Paying Attention by Katherine Ellison. It’s a memoir about a woman dealing with her son’s hyperactivity and oppositional defiant disorder. The book is also a meditation on paying attention as an adult. The author weaves the two narratives together.

The thing that struck me most about the book was this: one of the therapists Ellison has been dealing with tells her to put a picture of her “problem child” as a baby on the fridge. It is a reminder, he says, to her of who she is dealing with – this is her baby.

It made me wonder about the nature of remembering.

We are often told to pay attention to the present moment. I don’t want to miss anything as the children grow. This season of motherhood has long days and short years. But, but, but… in the midst of that I find that something gets lost.

Sometimes, when I am so focused on the current moment and getting to that next step, I forget where we came from. I forget that this is my baby. And as such, that reminder to put the child’s photograph as a baby on the fridge seemed to me very good advice indeed.

When did you last think of the first rush of motherhood? Of homeschooling?

I’ll confess: it’s been way too long for me. There is a reason we celebrate birthdays, anniversaries. The reason is that we shouldn’t forget, but often do. In the everyday craziness of routines and schedules and curricula, I must remind myself of the first few steps we took toward living like this. The first time my children read a word, the first time they wrote, first times – which too soon become the last times.

So remember. Throw a not-back-to-school party and take time to remember. It’s important.

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Author: Purva Brown

Writer / blogger at http://TheClassicalUnschooler.com - unapologetically blending two seeming opposites.

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