That Socialization Question (Again)

I have to consider myself a lucky homeschooler. I’ve never been asked the dreaded socialization question.

Perhaps it’s just as well, because I wouldn’t know where to begin my answer. Shocked by the ignorance and sheer arrogance of such an interrogation, I would just lose my mind.

However, I did share such an article about socialization on my Facebook page to give homeschoolers a chance to respond.

And respond they did.

The writer’s premise was that homeschoolers score higher in tests, but that they are not properly socialized to be able to deal “with people who have a different opinion and challenging preconceived notions.”

“It’s about having to do a group project with people who don’t necessarily work the same way as you do, to collaborate on ideas and grow as a thinker.”

These were some of the best responses:

“I was a public school teacher. Group work is rarely managed well, and is mostly used as a way to get a larger group busy. I also disagree, that in general, in the workplace, IF required to work in teams, the dynamic is different than in school. People are united because they have the same goal and most likely CHOSE that job and profession, and are motivated by interest and pay. The author also fails to bring up private school, where the population is generally more homogeneous than public. Parents invest a lot of money in a private education, and according to this article, fail to provide the socialization necessary to be employed well.” – Rebekah S.

“So my question for the author is … is socialization when kids “consistently work with people they’re not used to working with”, or when they are working with “consistent peers ” “day in and day out”… these are contradicting statements of what she says they need to be properly socialized .” – Amy R.

“I have 4 young adults in the work force. And an 18yo who just started his first full time job. None of them have had trouble working with others, doing group projects, etc.

“Here’s an important part: none of them have had trouble working independently, either. They know how to work without someone constantly having to tell them what to do all the time. That’s something employers have all commented on in a positive way about my kids.

“In our family, we have a large variety of personalities, some not as easy to deal with as others. So my kids get plenty of practice dealing with people with different opinions, and learn to get along with others. Seriously, if you can deal with a sibling who is in your face and in your space every single day, you can get along with just about anyone. ” – Sandie G.

Also, consider that children do indeed learn to get along with others on the playground. This happens in free play – not organized sports where adults are telling them what to do. Peter Gray writes extensively about it.


All the writer in the article was arguing for was socialization her way. I find this typical of people who bring up that old socialization topic.

It’s a dead horse, teachers. Homeschoolers have already proven that point. Beating it won’t do anything. Let it go.

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Author: Purva Brown

Writer / blogger at http://TheClassicalUnschooler.com - unapologetically blending two seeming opposites.

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